What others say about Sex without Love
The pleasure is for only a moment and it passes like a dream and at the end thereof you find death through knowing it. — Egyptian Saying
Sex is like an addiction, the more you have, the more you want.
My girlfriend and I are studying Tantra and one tape we came across explains sex without a deep love as
being akin to being with a dead person. My girlfriend agrees, however, I don’t. I’ve had sex with women I didn’t love that was magnificent. — Internet Chat
Sex without love is an empty experience but as empty experiences go, it’s one of the best. — Woody Allen
Sex without love is like taking a shit: it feels good while doing it but stinks after. — Graffiti in public toilet.
Sex Without Love
Sharon Olds
How do they do it, the ones who make love
without love? Beautiful as dancers,
gliding over each other like ice-skaters
over the ice, fingers hooked
inside each other’s bodies, faces
red as steak, wine, wet as the
children at birth whose mothers are going to
give them away. How do they come to the
come to the come to the God come to the
still waters, and not love
the one who came there with them, light
rising slowly as steam off their joined
skin? These are the true religious,
the purists, the pros, the ones who will not
accept a false Messiah, love the
priest instead of the God. They do not
mistake the lover for their own pleasure,
they are like great runners: they know they are alone
with the road surface, the cold, the wind,
the fit of their shoes, their over-all cardio-
vascular health—just factors, like the partner
in the bed, and not the truth, which is the
single body alone in the universe
against its own best time.
Sex Without Love
A pleasure we do out of love for the other person
We our sharing the sexual experiment with
When the innocent become the intimate
It’s when that passion of love turns into a hobby
Then into an obsession and then that turns into a have to have
You can’t stop thinking about your next fix
You look for it everywhere in everyone
You start having withdraws from it
You wonder how you got this way
So dependent on it to get you through the day
You think it’s the only thing that your good at
The guys keep coming and going like fire
At times when it hurts so bad you cant do anything
You tell yourself no more not another time
But as soon as soon as your better
Your right back at it
You ask yourself
Why you do this every time
You just don’t understand
It’s as if your being sexualy
Taken advantage by your own body
You wanna tear your hair our if your not doing it
The people just keep getting older while your still the same age
Started 2-3 years now it doesn’t really matter how old as long as you get the fix
You have to do it
It is your drug
Your Acid
People have been telling you for months that you need help
The people that know you the real you
This isn’t the real you and you know it
You can feel it
The lying
The addiction
The lack of pride you have for your body and self
It’s not you
It’s like he said right before he left
How does it feel to be trash now that you are trash,
And now you are truly trash.
You are not trash this is not you
You know how this started a young women lost within her broken hearted emotions
You just know you don’t know how to stop it
You now need help
As a retired counselor I want you to know that over my 30 year practice that I would counsel married couples constantly and what happens in the bed room is always a sore spot for both partners. I would let them know that men are wired for logic and women are wired for emotion. Male’s sexual peak is 18 years old and females peak at around 35 to 40 years old. Seriously 95% of the time I would hear: “he wants sex all the time and I want to be romanced first” from the females and from the males I would hear “I come home tired from working all day and it relaxes me to have sex and climax (which is true), the moment a guy climaxes, like women, guys have a many chemical reactions in their bodies and one is the hormone melatonin which helps us to go to sleep. Seriously I have to keep from bursting into laughing because seriously I’ve never seen my husband go to sleep so fast in all my life with him as soon as we have sex and he climaxes.
Ok so I’m getting off course here and need to come back around for the answer to the question. Yes, sex is just sex with only climaxing for both sexes but guess what ladies, its OK to do that! I know how fun it is to be teased a little here and there and even with kids at home the hubby is horny and so with the gestures and non-verbal communication, its ok to slip in to the bedroom, lock the door, rip off cloths and go for the gusto! Its OK to be spontaneous and playful with just sex. Now on the other hand guys, plan ahead for a romantic date out with your bride and treat her like a queen with all the little special things and being wired for emotion, we take it all in even though we know the final climaxing ending. So its a fair trade off ok?
Technique, the definition of adultery is having sex where one or both partners are married to other people. For the partner that is single, bottom line is: fornication.
retired counselor, Christian
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